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Tame Your Lizard Brain

I came across an interview with Seth Godin, the author of Linchpin.  I’ve really just come across it and so don’t have too much to say about it yet as I think it’s a longer conversation to be had and one that would make for an interesting chat on Creative Habit. 

On this week’s episode of CH we talk a bit about fear and how difficult it can be to take risks when afraid of being perceived as wrong, silly, or stupid.  Typically I don’t let it stop me, but I do suffer with this (along with the rest of the world).  I find it so interesting I’ve started doing some research and found something brilliant that I want to pass along.

Seth Godin has a great talk about what he calls “The Lizard Brain.”  The Lizard Brain is the part of the brain that takes over from the main part of the brain and offers resistance to whatever it is we’re trying to do.  When the “Lizard Brain” feels like it’s going to be laughed at, mocked, perceived as dumb, it throws up roadblocks (“I don’t have time to do this now”, “I have writer’s block”, “I need to lose weight first” etc. etc.)

Seth offers that if you can’t find a way to get beyond these roadblocks, you are on track to becoming mediocre, average, and trampled on (especially in this economy).  Pretty harsh.  But I think he’s right on.

The good news is: once you realize that EVERYONE has this problem…and I mean EVERYONE….he says you’ve solved 80% of the problem.  Your next job is not to REASON with the “Lizard Brain”, (because you can’t reason with it), but rather you SOOTHE this part of your brain, approaching it gently and give it time to come around.  The more you practice this, the easier it becomes.

An example in my life would be my auditioning skills.  I used to be deathly afraid of auditioning, to the point where my breath would go out the window, the nerves fluttered in my tummy and I would end up not getting the job.  I wasn’t NOT going to be an actor however, it was too important to me…and so I got older, got wiser, and got OVER it and now consider auditioning to be fun (okay, not all the time…sometimes it’s just a pain…)  In the process I’ve tamed the lizard.

I admit that a big part of taming the lizard had to do with having a child.  My priorities shifted and I no longer mind as much if I don’t get the role.  I am now able to put it in perspective, work on other ways of broadening my career and life and as a result I now I have other lizards to tame!

All fun stuff and extremely gratifying as I learn more about it.  Can’t wait to talk about it more on the next podcast!

Here is Seth Godin’s talk on The Lizard Brain.  Enjoy! 

The Creative Family and our core values

The Branding Of A Family

Doing it Zappos Style and Branding my family

After recently reading Tony Hsieh’s (CEO of Zappos) “Delivering Happiness” I realized the company’s “core values” match what I consider my families core values.  We’re not particularly religious, (and therefore going straight to hell) so, why not look to a shoe company like Zappos to shape my life?  Here are the first part of their core values and how I try to implement them into my own family (and my business for that matter).

1. Deliver Wow Through Service

I spend a lot of time delivering “Wow” through most of my community events.  That’s fairly easy- because I want to be judged in a good way.  BUT, my real job in life is to create “Wow” moments for my family, right?  They’re the ones I live for, so why not.  What’s “Wow through service” in a family situation?  Maybe it’s sitting down for play with your child with no distractions and letting them direct play for a whole hour.  Maybe a backyard picnic with all your teddy bears etc.  Maybe it’s fantastic sex with your partner on god forbid a TUESDAY NIGHT!

2. Embrace and Drive Change

Boy, this is been important in my life right now…I’ve stopped performing for, oh I don’t know, a year maybe.  In order to meet the needs of my body, my husbands heart, my son’s development, I need to change a bit.  I recently read a book (more on that later) that talks about living life in stages.  Certainly the needs of your marriage change over time, as do the needs of your child.  The more you are open in embracing change and also seek it out to better yourself through change, I believe the better off you’ll be.

3. Create Fun and a Little Weirdness

For sure!  This is one of our biggest core values and as my son gets older I think we’ll embrace it more.  Weirdness, being different, and being quirky, instills a sense of confidence.  Life does not need to be stuffy.  We have a little weird and quirky project we’ll be working on during our family vacation to Tahoe.  I’ll post that in a month or so!

4. Be Adventurous, Creative and Open-Minded

You get it.  This goes without saying.  If my parents had not been open-minded I wouldn’t have gone to a performing arts college (which shaped and changed the course of my life and also gave me a work ethic).  I hope, as my child gets older, that I will stay open-minded with his life.  I’ll go back and read this posting if I don’t. :)   I find that people have a hard time being creative with their lives…and hey I have a whole podcast that Daya Curley is producing around this!  Visit our podcast here!

5. Pursue Growth and Learning

I am much happier when I’m pursuing a goal or trying to learn something new.  My family benefits from this too.  Mainly because I’M MUCH HAPPIER.  Even if I’m not working on an important project, if I take the time to read a book, listen on tape, do an online class (lynda.com)  My family needs to do the same and what better way than to go to a school that has French 3 times a week!  Kurt and I met in French class in high school!  We will learn again with him…and start saving for a big trip to France in a couple years!!!

6. Build Open and Honest Relationships with Communication

This is something my dad taught me.  We talked about everything.  Well, I guess not everything.  I never told him when I went on birth control!  (He did find out….and wasn’t happy).  We did discuss our FEELINGS.  I think he maybe did this because he was never really allowed to discuss his feelings growing up.  As a result, my whole extended family has lots of open conversations and it certainly keeps things interesting and we’re always growing as a result.

More core values to come in the near future!

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